At first glance, the similarities of these roles can cause confusion. For instance, a genuine interest and a real desire in helping others to succeed is a common trait among all four. Some people even use the term “mentoring” interchangeably with “coaching.” However, mentoring differs significantly from coaching – mentoring involves a more experienced person passing on specific knowledge, where expertise in the subject is the key. In contrast, coaching requires expertise in coaching techniques rather than in the subject. A coach does not advise, but believes that all the answers lie within the person and by using the right coaching tools it is possible to uncover those answers and goals.
A coach and a mentor both focus on the future and may even be working on the same topic, just the approach of the two is different. Also, the boundaries between these two roles are different depending on which role you look at – while a mentor has the freedom to use coaching tools, a coach can mentor only if it has agreed between the parties in advance. A psychologist, on a contrary of the previous two, focuses mainly on the past and the importance of the work is to address psychological topics. A good friend is with you in the past, present and future, but may be biased and not professionally qualified to support you in all the challenging aspects of your life.
When choosing between the three professionals – a psychologist, coach and mentor – finding a personal fit is essential. However, professional background is no less important. While psychologists work in a more regulated field, the profession of coaching is less regulated, allowing for a wider range of individuals to become coaches. It’s advisable to opt for a coach with a recognised training certification, possessing the principles, framework and proven methods to bring long-term results. When choosing a mentor, it’s important to evaluate the experience and expertise in the specific topic.
To sum it up, keep in mind the unique value of each role. A psychologist will help you to address the past and explore the roots of unwanted behavioural patterns or disorders. A coach will be a thinking partner to discover your profound dreams, connect to your inner resources, and enhance your confidence, creativity and motivation to pursue your bright future. A mentor will advise and guide you on the way to your desired and pinpointed end results. A good friend will be the emotional cornerstone on your challenging journey and will offer priceless support when you most need it.
